你的戒指戴在哪？

　　Is the wearing of rings random? When we choose to wear a ring on a particular finger, is the subconscious at work or do we simply place rings on fingers that fit? Modern hand analysts believe that we can gain insights into current mental preoccupations (or worries) by noting which fingers bear rings. These reveal matters that are foremost in our minds and the personality traits we wish to emphasize and reinforce at the present time. Of course, wearing a ring does not cause any of these circumstances or traits. It is simply that the desire to wear a ring reflects and ‘coincides’ with a current problem or urgent need, as revealed by the finger in question. It’s interesting to note that the size of the ring adds emphasis to the particular meaning. A very large ring, for instance, reveals that the matter has become quite an obsession. In addition, the presence of the ring provides support and back-up in an area in which we feel insecure at present.

　　我们是随意把戒指戴在某根手指吗？我们决定戒指戴在哪时是听从潜意识，还是仅看哪根手指戴着正好合适？现代手相占卜师认为，看一个人在哪根手指戴戒指，可以推测他当下的心理活动和烦恼，揭示他当前头脑中最紧迫的事和他最希望突出强调的性格特质。当然，仅仅通过戴戒指是不能带来这些特质的，而是说想要在某根手指戴戒指的念头恰巧能够反映一个人当下遇到的问题和急迫的诉求。戒指的大小也有含义，戒指越大说明程度越深。戴戒指也可以给人安全感。

　　Here are quick profiles on the meanings of rings on the digits.

　　以下是戒指戴在不同手指上的含义。

　　A Ring on the Thumb

　　大拇指

　　A ring on the thumb reveals a wilful, stubborn temperament; we can be hell-bent on doing things our own way regardless of outside influence or suggestion. We like to have control over our environment and, while wearing the ring, feel that we need additional support to do so. If worn on the left hand it will show that this need for autonomy is dogmatically applied to our personal life; on the right hand this need might be inflicted upon co-workers and in the pursuit of professional projects!

　　One client began wearing a ring on her left thumb a short while before our consultation. I asked her if she was attempting to take greater control of domestic issues (left hand). She said no, but later revealed that her mother-in-law had moved in temporarily and had started to run the household! I asked when she’d first moved in: it was four weeks ago. And when had my client begun to wear the ring? A few days later. 

　　戴戒指也意味着他想要得到外界帮助。戴在左手说明他对自己个人生活的掌控十分严苛。戴在右手，这种掌控欲可能会体现在与同事相处、处理工作等事情上。

　　曾有一位客户，她来找我咨询前不久在左手大拇指上戴了枚戒指，于是我问她是否想要更多地掌控家庭事务（因为是左手），她否认了。但后来她说到她婆婆最近来家里暂住，时间虽短却已经开始管家了！她婆婆是一个月前搬来的。猜猜她是什么时候开始戴戒指的？就在她婆婆搬来的几天后。

　　A Ring on the Index Finger

　　食指

　　A ring on the index finger indicates that we need to exhibit traits of leadership and confidence, although the underlying motive may be to hide shyness, low self-esteem or protect a fragile ego (especially if the index finger is shorter than the ring finger). It also says we’re keen to understand our life purpose. When the index finger is longer than the ring finger, the wearing of a ring can highlight the control freak in us or suggest that we want to impose our authority on others. If the ring is worn on the left hand, we may play the role of the bossy homemaker with the henpecked spouse; on the right hand it shows that we want to be firmly in control of our destiny or be in charge at work.

　　A few months ago, I found myself on a train sitting beside a very friendly and sociable young man, who was chatting to everyone up and down the carriage. It was a little over-the-top but he wasn’t trying to convert anyone to some pseudo religion or sell timeshares, so he came across as personable more than anything else. When he discovered what I did for a living, he was quite dismissive, saying, ‘You mean like ‘cold readings’?’ Somewhat taken aback, I persevered and asked him something about himself (if I had wanted to spend my life talking about myself, I wouldn’t have become a consultant palmist!). But the young man was very reluctant to have the spotlight turned on him. I noticed a bold ring on his right-hand index finger, and (silently) I wondered whether this was a way to bolster his self-confidence and mask esteem issues or uncertainty. It turned out that he was a big fan of self-help guru Anthony Robbins, master of ‘awakening the giant within’ through his own brand of NLP, esteem- and confidence-building programs. I mentioned the ring he was

　　wearing, but I was careful not to ‘tread’ on this sensitive area. The remarkable aspect of our encounter was that, without knowing the symbolism for the ring on an index finger, he announced to me that it was his ‘Tony Robbins ring’ – one he’d bought after the first workshop and had worn it (‘for some reason’) on this finger ever since.

　　食指戴戒指表明他想要展示领导能力和自信，但潜在的动机也许是掩盖他的羞怯和不自信，保护自己的玻璃心（尤其对于食指比无名指短的人来说）。食指戴戒指也表明一个人渴望了解他的人生目标。食指比无名指长的人在食指上戴戒指说明他控制欲很强，想凌驾于他人之上。戒指戴在左手，说明他常想在家庭事务中压倒另一半。戴在右手说明他想牢牢把握个人命运和事业前途。

　　几个月前，我在火车上碰到一位能说会道的小伙子，他和车厢里所有人都搭了话。这是有点过了，不过他也不是为了卖东西，所以大家对他的印象就是喜欢交际。他得知我的职业后还有些轻蔑，问“就跟冷读术一样么？”。我有点震惊，但还是镇定地问了问他的情况（我要是喜欢谈论自己，何必要当一名手相咨询师呢！）但是小伙子不太愿意把目光引到他身上。这时我发现他右手食指上戴着一枚戒指，我就在他可能是想以此树立自信心和自尊心。原来他是励志大师Anthony Robbins的粉丝。Anthony Robbins最出名的就是“唤醒你内心的巨人”，通过NLP重树自信自尊。于是我装作随口提了他戴的戒指，但很小心地避开了他内心的敏感区域。神奇的是，他完全不知道食指戴戒指的意义，却告诉我那是他的“Anthony Robbins戒指”，是他上完Anthony Robbins的第一次工作坊之后买的，从那以后一直戴着，他也不知道为什么。

　　A Ring on the Middle or Ring Finger

　　中指和无名指

　　A ring on the middle finger is not particularly significant (although some palmists suggest it reflects a fear of loneliness), nor is the wearing of a ring on the ring finger (although as a sign of romantic commitment it emphasizes the astrological qualities of Venus and the Sun). The middle finger does have a link to commitment, maturity and society (all words associated with the middle finger and the planet Saturn). Youngsters often wear rings on this finger to show their status as adults, and gay couples (particularly before the legalization of same-sex marriage) have worn commitment rings here. We give people ‘the finger’ or flip them ‘the bird’ to suggest that we’ll do things our own way and to hell with their experience or opinion; it’s an impudent, scornful anti-authority signal. My palmistry colleague Robin Lown links a ring on the middle finger to deep-rooted mother issues, and I’ve begun to see this when listening to my clients’ stories.

　　戒指戴在中指的意义不大（但有些手相占卜师认为它反映害怕孤独），戴在无名指的意义也不大 (虽然象征浪漫关系的承诺，因为它在占星学中象征金星和太阳）。中指的确和承诺、成熟、社会（所有与中指和土星相关的词）有关。年轻人常常在中指上戴戒指表示他们是成年人。同性情侣(特别在同性婚姻合法化之前)也都把定情戒指戴在中指。人们树中指表达“去你的，我就按照我的想法来”，因为它也是鲁莽、嘲讽和反权威的信号。我的同事Robin Lown认为中指戴戒指说明和母亲之间有深层次的问题。听了很多客户的故事，我也开始认同这一点。

　　A Ring on the Little Finger

　　小拇指

　　Have you ever noticed how top businesspeople wear signet rings on their little fingers? Like the finger itself, a ring worn here has multiple interpretations. On the left hand we may be living through temporary sexual or romantic problems. We may also have a need for freedom in a personal relationship (more importantly, this will be shown when the little finger juts out away from the rest of the fingers). At times, money takes over as the prime motivator in getting romantically involved (the gold-digger may wear rings on both little fingers!). Sometimes there are sexual difficulties or physical worries. For example, we may feel inadequate in the bedroom. (This latter point must be backed up by other features in the hand.)

　　I’ve always remembered the particularly vivid example of a client who revealed that for the whole time she wore a ring on her left-hand little finger she was also experiencing an on-going gynaecological problem. After her hysterectomy she took the ring off, declaring that it ‘no longer felt right on my hand’. This is an extreme case (and wearing a ring on the little finger should not be seen as revealing a medical issue), but I’ve noticed that wearing a ring on this finger can highlight (rather than ‘cause’) anxieties or physical problems time and time again.

　　When the ring is worn on the right hand, the emphasis is more on acquisition, usually at the expense of putting energy into developing sexual desires. Money-makers, people obsessed with financial gain and avaricious types often wear a ring on their right little finger. The larger the ring, the greater the obsession with the almighty dollar; and this can be an overcompensation for a lack of sexual contact or intimacy.

　　你是否曾经注意到某些顶尖的商务人士喜欢在小拇指上戴戒指?小拇指本身有多重含义，戴在小拇指上的戒指自然也有多种解释。戴在左手说明一个人在亲密关系方面遇上了麻烦，也可能是他在一段关系中追求个人自由（特别是小拇指与其他手指离得远的人）。有些情况下，小拇指戴戒指的人会为了钱而展开亲密关系（见过两只小拇指都戴戒指的人吗？很可能是个傍大款的！）。有时候小拇指戴戒指还意味着性方面的困扰或身体其他方面不适，比如可能在床上欲求不满（后面这一点需要结合其他掌纹特征判断）。

　　有个客户我印象很深。她左手小拇指一直戴着戒指，同时的确一直遭受妇科方面的困扰。后来她做手术切除了子宫，那之后就把戒指摘掉了，因为“现在戴着觉得别扭”。这是一个极端的例子（不应该认为左手小拇指戴戒指的人身体都有状况），但的确有很多情况下在左手小拇指戴戒指象征（不是“导致”）焦虑或身体疾病。

　　当戒指戴在右手小拇指时，更多地是强调索取，通常会在性欲方面消耗大量精力。对金钱和其他物质上瘾的人往往都会在右手小拇指戴戒指。戒指越大，欲望越强。其实这也是对缺乏性接触和亲密关系的过度补偿。

　　© Frank C. Clifford